We belong here, but we carry somewhere else at the same time.
I didn’t grow up in one place, I grew up across countries, cultures, across versions of life that don’t always overlap. Nothing ever felt fully singular;
Not home
Not language
Not even memory
There’s always another layer running underneath.
A joke that only lands in one country
A smell that brings you back somewhere no one around you knows
A version of you that only exists in a different language
Sometimes it hits you mid-thought. You’re here, but part of you is somewhere else entirely.
Maybe you didn’t move as much, but if you grew up between cultures, you know this feeling.
Because we do learn the world around us
We move through it like anyone else
We understand its rules, its references, its rhythm.
But we also carry something quieter, a parallel world most people don’t see or know about.
It lives in memories that don’t translate
In inside jokes that fall flat outside the circle
In moments that shaped you, but have no place where you are.
And then there’s language.
Some of us speak our parents’ language, some don’t. Some are fluent, some are still finding their way.
Either way, it stays with you
Because language isn’t just words, it’s a way of thinking. You don’t just switch vocabulary, you shift perspective.
Sometimes you even feel it in yourself. Not like you’re becoming someone else, just.. a different version of the same person, expanded.
Every culture has its codes: What’s said, what’s not. What’s allowed, what’s felt but never expressed..
And if you understand more than one, you start to see the world differently.
Then comes the next layer, religion.
Growing up with beliefs and traditions that don’t match the world around you
Again, different rhythms, different priorities and a different way of making sense of life altogther.
You learn what everyone else knows, but you also carry what they don’t: Names, stories, references that exist outside the mainstream.
It’s not always visible, but it shapes how you move.
Living through all of this does something to you. It doesn’t just make you adaptable, it makes you more aware.
You understand what it means to be misunderstood
To feel slightly out of place
To not fully belong
Some embrace it, others struggle with it.
But when you’ve felt that, you don’t want others to feel it too.
Not everyone reflects on it, but those who do soften.
They listen more
They notice more
They hold space differently
Because they’ve lived the distance.
Immigrant kids blend it, and stand out.
We connect things that aren’t supposed to touch
We carry perspectives that don’t usually meet.
We’re rarely the ones drawing lines because we know what it feels like to stand outside them.
Being an immigrant isn’t easy
It comes with friction
With weight
Sometimes with rejection
But it builds something solid
Depth
Awareness
Resilience
You learn to see more
To feel more
To understand more
You don’t just move between worlds
You connect them.
We don’t need to split ourselves to fit in, we don’t need to shrink parts of us to be understood.
We carry multiple worlds
Multiple languages
Multiple ways of being
That’s our wealth.
Let us be.
Thanks for reading.
Teekay